Creating the life of your dreams (Guest)

Almost all of our problems and limitations stem from unhelpful mental programming. Before you can create the life of your dreams, you must first take back control of your mind.  ~ Jay Cataldo

Jay Cataldo

Jay is a life coach, relationship expert, author of Get Your Girl Back and a childhood cancer survivor.

If today were my last day on Earth and I could share 500 words of brilliance with the world, here are the important things I'd want to pass along to others...

1. Write down your goals and look at them every day.  

Follow these 4 steps:  

Write down goals, Look at goals, Take action, Repeat

2. Have a support system in place for when you feel down or depressed.

You'll always have "those days" so a good coping strategy is mandatory. And no matter how miserable you may feel, remember to repeat the mantra "this will pass" over and over again in your mind.

3. Your unconscious mind is running the show so learn how to communicate with it.

Instead of struggling to use your willpower to overcome your challenges, reprogram yourself with the proper tools (coaching, hypnosis, EFT, etc.) and watch your life get a thousand times easier (and much more fun).

4. Make a list of your accomplishments and look them over at least once a week.

Our brains tend to focus on negativity so it's easy to forget how awesome we are. Be grateful for everything you've done, everything you have and everything you're about to accomplish.

5. Learn people skills above all else.

Quality relationships will take you far. A good place to start is with the book "How To Win Friends And Influence People" by Dale Carnegie

6. Proper nutrition is vital.

Food can affect our moods as much as our body composition. Learn to love healthy eating.

7. Question everything you hear!

Doctors, professors, clergy, etc. are not infallible. They are human just like the rest of us. Always do your own research.

8. Learn to be amazing with the opposite sex.

Satisfying romantic relationships can add a dimension to your life that nothing else can touch. Luckily, it's a skill set that can be learned.

9. Your beliefs create your universe.

Examine your existing beliefs on a daily basis and work hard to eradicate the ones which hinder your growth.

10. Never stop learning.

Motivational speaker Jim Rohn used to say "Poor people have big TV's. Rich people have big libraries." Read, read, and read some more.

11. Hire a coach!

Almost every successful person the world over has worked with a mentor or coach. It's a prerequisite for success.

12. Lighten up!

There's a time and a place to be serious but now is not the time. ;-)

13. Never sell yourself short. Ever.

The second you label yourself as "not an X kind of person" or tell yourself "I could never do that" you instantly become correct. And of course, you'll never change or be anything otherwise! Instead, cultivate a mindset of unlimited possibility. Whatever you don't understand right now, you will eventually figure out.

14. Learn to love the grunt work.

It's inevitable, so you might as well enjoy it. Praise and reward yourself when you complete your daily tasks.

15. Keep on moving forward.

The world can be a scary place and you will get beat down occasionally. Just remember that no matter what happens, you can bounce back from it. This realization will help keep you open, loving and pushing forward despite the obstacles in your path.

16. Stay in control of yourself at all times.

Learn to master your thoughts, actions and emotions and make them work FOR you, not against you.

17. When in doubt, ask for help.

The universe is always listening.